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Danni

Dysautonomia Sucks

Autism, Danni, M.E., Mental Health, Penguins!, Physical Disability, Rant, Real Life

A rant, then an update.

It’s becoming more obvious to me that dysautonomia (dysfunction of the autonomic nervous system) is causing the worst of my symptoms right now. Which is a problem, as that’s things like heart rate, blood pressure, breathing, digestion, urinating, and everything else the body does without thinking about them. POTS (postural orthostatic tachycardia syndrome) is one form of dysautonomia, but ME can cause others.

The main ones causing me bother are heart rate and blood pressure (making me super dizzy and unable to sit up, amongst other things) and digestion. The first I’m used to, as it’s one of the reasons I’ve been bedbound so long. The second one has recently got worse, and I’m not happy about it. I’m also having issues with breathlessness and bladder stuff, but they’re manageable.

So digestion. About a month ago my body decided that solid food was just gonna hang out in my stomach for more than a day. Which I know because sometimes it comes up and reminds me it’s not moved on to my intestines yet. I’ve had reflux and regurgitation issues as long as I can remember (one of my earliest memories is bringing up milk and apple while in nursery, so I was 3 or 4), so I’m used to it. I’m not used to bringing up identifiable bits of chicken 37 hours after eating it, or rice 26 hours after doing so. 10-12 hours is my normal since getting ME.

I’ve had it before, and previously I’d give my stomach a bit of a break by swapping to liquid foods for a few days, and that would be enough to sort it. It’s also previously only happened when my ME has been really bad, so I’d normally be struggling to chew as well so liquids helped there too. I figured I just didn’t have the energy to digest properly, and once I came out of that bad period it resolved itself.

This time, my ME isn’t actually that bad. Chewing isn’t difficult. I’m able to do basic self care tasks like wipe my face and help with things like changing my top. I can even use cutlery every few days. I have enough energy to watch films and read books. In those ways, I’m doing pretty good for me. But I can’t digest solid food properly.

I swapped to liquid and dissolvable foods, following what my dietician told me years ago when chewing was impossible, and it did help. I was only bringing them up for 12-14 hours after eating, which isn’t amazing but I’ll take it. I’ve also discovered the combination of soup and milkshake is not one I like, especially mixed with stomach acid, so I really need to leave at least 14 hours between them. Rusks go with both, and have the advantage of being solid enough to feel like I’ve eaten something, but pretty much liquid by the time I’m swallowing it. I’ve eaten a lot of rusks.

Every few days, I’d try a bit of rice or banana to see if it was getting better. And until last week, it wasn’t, so I went back to the liquid foods. Then I again tried rice, and I stopped bringing it up after about 12 hours. Since then I’ve had a few days where I’ve been okay with what I’ve eaten, and others where I’ve needed my antiemetic to keep it down and it’s still coming up the next day. I think it’s getting better but slower than I’d like, and I’m mostly only having one meal a day with snacks which isn’t ideal but better than nothing.

As for what’s wrong, we suspect I might have something like gastroparesis (partial paralysis of the stomach), which is not uncommon among those with my combination of stuff (especially hypermobility and dysautonomia). I’m too ill to get tested though, and it’s not yet serious enough to make us worried, as I am still able to eat, even if it’s not necessarily what I want. I’m sure it’ll resolve itself like it has done previously. My IBS continues to be a pain, but it’s my normal so that’s also reassuring.

I do want to know why I still get hungry while my stomach is full though. That one I can’t figure out. Good for making sure I still eat, bad for my nausea and reflux.

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Other than that, I’m mostly doing okay. I’ve already read 7 books, so I suspect I’ll be upping that goal soon. I’ve watched a couple of films, and have started raising the back of the bed in the hopes of getting back to sitting up, though I overdid it one day and got payback. I’ve also been doing some planning.

Izzy’s leaving the country this month. Twice. A few months ago she booked a cruise to northern Europe with some friends for her annual holiday/break from looking after me. That starts on the 30th March, so I was already updating my care home instruction book and sorting things out for that. Then last month she got asked to go to the USA for a work trip. This is a massive opportunity for her, so we said yes. This event starts on the 19th March.

We get 4 weeks of respite a year, though it turns out it’s not January to January like Izzy thought, but July to July, which meant we only had 15 days left. Social services have been very good and given us the extra we need as a one off, which we’re very grateful for. It’ll be the only time I go this year, so that’s fine.

Izzy will be home the week between the two trips, but I’m not going to be well enough to travel twice in such a short space of time so I’ll just stay at the care home until she’s home from the cruise. Which one? We don’t know yet.

All the ones with nursing care I’ve previously stayed in near here, and the others within easy travel distance, can’t take me. Mostly because they have no room or aren’t doing respite right now, one because they think they can’t meet my needs which is better to know beforehand but frustrating. Izzy’s now trying ones that are further away and we’re accepting I’m going to be more ill. I’m meant to be going in on Friday so there’s really not much time (Izzy has been trying to sort this out for the last couple of weeks, so it’s not her fault).

Am I well enough to travel? Nope. We know ways to mitigate the worst symptoms, and luckily unlike when I go to hospital I don’t need to be able to communicate clearly at the other end (we do warn them) so I can mostly shut off and just try and recover. Going into respite last year it took about 3 months to recover once I got home, but hopefully because my ME symptoms aren’t quite as bad (even if my dysautonomia is worse) it won’t take that long this time. Care homes are not a good place for me but Izzy being unable to continue looking after me would be worse. The extra week and a bit for the work trip won’t make that much of a difference.

Izzy has requested I don’t say exactly what her work trip is, but there’s no way we’d have been able to afford it. Luckily we’re not paying 😛 To help, her boss has agreed that as me going into respite is essential for Izzy to go, the day I go in counts as a work day. If she’d not been going on the work trip, I’d have gone in on a day she’s already requested off as holiday before her cruise, so this is cool and fair. Hopefully she gets a lot out of the work trip, and that more people will know about Arcade Paradise VR (the reason she’s going). I’ve demanded she brings home some peppermint Lifesavers, since I remember really liking them as a kid but they’re too expensive to buy here. I also want pictures of San Francisco and planes.

The cruise is going to be fun. Same friends and cruise ship as she went on last year, but another friend in the same group has been convinced to go. Last time it was to the Norwegian Fjords, this time is northern Europe (Germany, the Netherlands, Belgium). I’ve been involved in the planning, have been promised lots of photos, and a trip to the zoo to see penguins (and meet another online friend who lives nearby) has been organised. I’m mostly hoping I’m well enough to video call while they’re at the zoo so I can see the penguins, but if not Izzy is going to film them for me. I’ve also told her to try a fresh stroopwaffel.

To add to my anxiety over not knowing what care home I’m going to stay in, my home care is all messed up right now. Previously I had a stable team of 3 amazing care workers, but two of them have left in the last month, and the third only does Tuesdays (and has taken this week off). I have been asking who is meant to be doing my calls, but it’s been changing on the day and we’re not getting told this. They’ve also been changing the times of the calls without letting us know, so I keep panicking. I’m hoping it’ll be more stable when I come home again, but we’ll see.

The combination of everything means I’ve been struggling to sleep until I basically crash. I’m also both drinking and weeing more (caused by adrenaline), meaning Izzy’s being woken up more often to deal with that. Once I know what’s going on it’ll be fine, I just need to get through this period. Being Autistic is mostly great when things are going well, but I really struggle with uncertainty and change, which is what’s currently happening.

It has been fun planning for Izzy’s trips though. When I couldn’t sleep one night she gave me the job of finding her a new suitcase as she gets one checked bag for the work trip and her current one is noisy and awkward to pull. I gave her multiple options and she decided to go for the biggest that met the size requirements, not realising it’s huge. It’s purple and lightweight though, so will be good. Just need to figure out where we’ll be storing it when she gets home again. We also found out American Airlines and Alaska Airlines allow huge cubes that would be easy to transport a human in, if it weren’t for the 27 kg weight limit.

What I do in the care home depends on how well I am. I’m hoping I have decent enough wifi or 4G so I can watch stuff, and I’m taking my Steam Deck and adapted controllers so I can play games if I’m up to it. Over the next couple of days I’m choosing clothes and downloading games and stuff to watch in case the connection isn’t great. I’ve already updated my care plan/instruction book (there’s only one extra section to clarify something). If there’s a TV I’ll take my Chromecast, if there isn’t I might take one depending on how difficult it is. There’s also F1 to watch if I get a good enough signal to stream it.

If I’m not well enough for any of that, Reddit exists for when I’m conscious, and adrenaline has a massive effect. I’ll also take my galaxy projector to watch if I can’t brain at all. Worst case scenario is I sleep and rest a lot, and I can do that in any bed if I’m in a room by myself, which I will be. I doubt I’ll be well enough for visitors but I’ll let local people know if I happen to be.

How much I’ll be able to talk to Izzy (probably via WhatsApp) we’re unsure about right now. Definitely not while flying, maybe not while working or partying (apparently that’s also work?) in the US, but probably at the airports, in the hotel, and when just being a tourist. When she’s in the UK it’ll be similar to our normal when I can’t speak, and when she’s on the cruise we can talk when she’s in port, but only on sea days if she buys WiFi which we’ll try to avoid (she caved last time).

It is very weird to not talk to her at all for a day. Since we got married that’s happened twice – once when she was in hospital without her phone, and the first sea day on her cruise last year. If my sleep is all over the place it might be asynchronous, but that’s one of the benefits of using a messaging app.

Penguins are still good though. Floof (the baby little blue fairy penguin I saw hatch on a New Zealand webcam stream) grew up and left the nest, so I’m now watching another young penguin go through a molt in the same colony. I’ve also been watching the burrow cam of some Australian fairy penguins, where there’s two chicks going through their first molt. I love that I can watch them from bed on the other side of the world.

If I’m awake this (Tuesday) evening I’m planning to watch the Barbie film with Izzy. Hopefully I’ll also have more of a clue with what’s going on by then too. Until then I’ll keep distracting myself with penguins and looking up all the things Izzy will be too busy to do in San Francisco next week.

Danni

Second Covid-19 Vaccine Get

Danni, Gaming, Gender Stuff, M.E., Mental Health, Penguins!, Physical Disability

This is my second version of this post, as just over a week ago I wrote one saying I wasn’t feeling too bad after getting the second vaccine. I just needed fact check something with Izzy, so went to sleep thinking I’d post it after I woke up. And I felt awful. I’m still not great but I’m hoping it’ll ease off soon.

I got my second jab on Tuesday 4th May, and getting it was fine. Same person as the first time which helped, as we could skip the don’t get worried if I stop responding stuff. For the first few days I had a sore, useless arm and felt a bit fluey, but not as bad as the first jab.

The evening of Friday 7th May I woke up feeling horrendous. High temperature, chills, shakes, worse ME symptoms, severe nausea, and just generally feeling awful. Izzy had her jab that afternoon but luckily wasn’t feeling too bad, as she had to give me all the meds I’m allowed. I was only awake about 3 hours before my body forced me to sleep again.

I think it’s a mixture of vaccine side effects and ME payback from getting the vaccine, compounded by having new problematic upstairs neighbours, so my rest is being interrupted. I’m finally doing a bit better, but still am much weaker than my normal. It sucks having to stop eating because I can’t chew any longer rather than having finished or being full. I’m hoping to be back to my normal soon, as once I’m fully protected (which is meant to be the coming Tuesday) I’m wanting to go on adventures and/or see people.

Izzy had about a day of feeling lousy then was pretty much fine. She took the Friday she had the jab off, but was able to work again on the Monday. She’s also excited about the prospect of seeing people again.

I’m going to bullet point the rest of the updates as it’s easier for me and I want to finish this post.

  • The sore arm from the first jab lasted 10 weeks. I really hope it doesn’t this time.
  • Izzy has started sorting the living room and has set up a computer for Sammie to use. For me to get in there we need to remove some old furniture and stuff, which requires help. Hopefully soon.
  • We got a new tabletop dishwasher called Bob. Bob is purple and my contribution was large googly eyes. It’s already helped Izzy so much.
  • Izzy has gone private for her gender healthcare, as we don’t know how many years it’ll be before she’s seen on the NHS. Expensive but worth it. She’s already happier because there’s progress.
  • Just after Izzy emptied her bank account to pay for that, we discovered we need to replace our fridge freezer. Typical. Our current one will need defrosting and the hallway needs the boxes of pads and stuff moving before we can get a new one delivered.
  • We’re pretty sure Izzy has ADHD as well as being autistic, but neither of us have the spoons to sort out an assessment for her. It does help explain certain struggles she has that autism doesn’t quite cover (though there’s a lot of overlap).
  • Izzy is also exhausted because she’s looking after me 24/7 along with being a game developer 40 hours a week for over a year now. If circumstances allow, we’re hoping she’ll get a break this summer.
  • We’re not sure when we’ll get the careworkers back in yet, but it’ll be before Izzy goes back to the office.
  • We don’t know when Izzy will be back at the office. We do know it’ll be a different office, and the new one is further away. We’ll have to take this into account when figuring out what times the care workers should come.
  • We also need to sort out getting a new cleaner/house help person. As they’ll eventually be coming in when Izzy isn’t here, it’ll need to be someone I’m comfortable being in the flat alone with, which I wasn’t with our previous cleaner. I’m hoping whoever it is can help me organise my room – I have a plan, but need someone to be my arms 😛
  • I have some niggly and routine health stuff to sort out once things calm down. Nothing super urgent but they need doing. For obvious reasons I didn’t want to go to the hospital until I’m protected from Covid-19, and nor did I want to tie up a doctor or nurse for things that can wait a bit.
  • When not experiencing jab side effects, I was getting on my computer and playing World of Warcraft once or twice a week. Not as often as I’d like, but enough to make some decent progress.
  • I’ve gotten obsessed with the mobile game Idle Brick Breaker. It’s just colourful balls breaking bricks to make big numbers, but perfect when my brain isn’t working. I wish it were a proper idle game that progressed while not open, but watching it is great.
  • Our new upstairs neighbours are drug dealers. We know this because they’re not quiet about it, and we can hear their shouted conversations. It’s also meant people visiting at all hours of the day and night, often banging on the communal doors, and sometimes ringing our doorbell or banging on our windows. There’s also a lot of yelling and arguments.
  • My biggest flashback triggers are loud arguments and things hitting the window. I’m struggling quite a bit with them, panic attacks and dissociation. It’s also making my ME worse.
  • The last time we had an upstairs neighbour involved with drugs he ended up getting murdered. Although that’s probably not going to happen this time, last weekend the flat upstairs was raided by the police as a man was found dead not that far away.
  • Izzy and our other neighbours are reporting this to the housing when they can. Last time we were seriously considering moving. Upstairs know I’m ill in bed as our nosy neighbour told them, but that doesn’t stop them making so much noise they wake me up with ear plugs in at 1am some nights.
  • Other than upstairs, it’s a pretty quiet area. Before they moved in the worst noise was the kids playing next door or the nosy neighbour vacuuming with her flat door open. Ear plugs deal with them fine.
  • Penguins are still good. Baby penguins are being born and they’re adorable.
  • We found a really friendly, accepting community on Twitch and Discord after a random raid. They like us both as individuals and as a couple. I overdid it for a few weeks watching streams and chatting because it’s just so lovely. They’ve really helped Izzy’s confidence as well.
  • I commissioned the below emote to use on Discord. I love it 😊
A cartoon purple penguin smiling and hugging a red heart.
Danni

Day 25 – Dead Tablet

2019, Computers, Danni, NaBloPoMo, Penguins!, Real Life

My lovely tablet, a Pixel C, has pretty much died. The charging port has been tempremental for a while, and this last week it’s been really difficult to get it to charge at all. Yesterday I bought a second hand Pixel C from eBay (I was looking at new tablets, but none of the ones I could justify really met my specific needs or were worse than what I had). It’s due to arrive either Tuesday or Wednesday.

This morning I realised it was refusing to charge above 15%, and that was with a lot of wiggling the cable in the port and stuff. Realising that I might not have long left, I quickly did the most important app backups and sent them to my phone. I also did a nandroid backup, but during it I couldn’t get it to charge at all so it dropped down to what it said was 7%. I was hoping that would be enough to boot it and move the nandroid backup over to my phone (the port no longer sees my USB C hard drive) but unfortunately just trying to boot it sent it to 0% and it shut down completely.

I left the charging cable apparently charging while I slept through the day, but when trying to boot it again it never even got to the lock screen before turning off again. That was with a dedicated USB C charger. I’ve swapped to a USB A to USB C cable to see if that will at least trickle charge (it was a bit more reliable last week, though wasn’t charging it enough while on it was while off) in the hope that it’ll get enough to be able to grab the nandroid backup. Tapping the lightbar on the back, it is flashing to say it’s charging, but I don’t know how accurate that is.

In the worst case scenario, I have a nandroid backup from September, backups of all the apps I was using from the 19th November on my Google Drive, and backups of the couple of apps that don’t cloud sync and I would miss the progress I’d made since then on from Monday morning on my phone. Luckily most apps cloud sync, so having the backups is just for convinence of not needing to login and redo all the settings again.

I might take the opportunity to try a different rom out on my new tablet. I was running Ressurection Remix, which I love the customisability of. It was on Android Pie (9) and was pretty suited to my needs. I do want to try Android 10 though, and there are beta roms for Lineage and Pixel Experience available for that. There are a couple of things not working, but other than the camera (which I don’t use as the one on my phone is much better) the same issues existed on my previous rom and didn’t bother me. If I don’t like them, it’s not hard for me to go back to Ressurection Remix. I even made a document of what to do when things go wrong so if I break it again I can fix it myself with my computer/Surface.

In the meantime, I’m mostly using my phone, though I’m on my desktop PC tonight as I’m feeling up to it and wanted to sort my emails out and maybe even play some World of Warcraft. My phone is great, but I struggle with the smaller screen for a lot of things, especially as I need such large text size when my eyes are playing up. I also keep hitting the wrong stuff. I miss using my tablet.

Tuesday afternoon I have the physiotherapist coming out again, but hopefully it’ll go better now I’m no longer feeling horrendous 😛 Finally getting over the cold(s) has made a massive difference in how I feel, and means I can do more with less payback. My main issue with doing some of the exercises since I’ve been well enough has my sleeping pattern meaning Johan isn’t always awake enough to do them when I’m up to them, and I need his help. I’ve been doing the one I can without him, but I’m not even sure if I’ve been doing it right. As they don’t take very long if I’m well enough to do them all at once I’m hoping to fit them in before he leaves in the morning if possible.

This week at some point I want to see the barber. If I’m feeling okay after the physio, maybe I’ll go tomorrow. If not, probably later in the week, possibly Saturday between Johan doing Parkrun and the birthday party he’s going to (Johan is very busy :P). My hair is now long enough to tangle and hurt so the sooner I get it off, the better. I have some lovely penguin hats to wear so I don’t get cold. Penguins are awesome 🙂

Danni

Day 11 – World of Warcraft

2019, Computers, Danni, Gaming, M.E., NaBloPoMo, Penguins!, Real Life, World of Warcraft

It seems I really needed that sleep. Once I woke up this morning (from a nightmare which wasn’t ideal) I was feeling much more like myself. Still full of cold but otherwise mostly at my normal level of functioning.

Since I was awake and kinda with it for once, I decided to go on my computer while Johan was at his volunteering. First was finishing reinstalling all the programs after the reformat last time I was on, and then I went into World of Warcraft.

In WoW at the moment there’s a 15th anniversary event going on. There’s some fun things included like revisiting old raids and fireworks, but most importantly for me is a 15% buff to reputation until January. To be able to fly in the newer areas you need to get revered (second highest) reputation with several factions, including two newer ones. I’d done all the older ones, but still had those two to do. I was able to get one of them to revered today so I’ve only got the last one now. Unfortunately my Rustbolt Resistance rep is only at friendly even after doing all the dailies I could today, so as I need to get through honoured as well it’s probably going to take a while until I’m able to fly. I did have fun with a jet pack in the Mechagon zone though.

The other advantage of being on my computer is that it’s so much easier to sort things out. I was able to get my emails sorted, buy various items that were in my baskets, and finish moving over from Chrome to Firefox. I was also able to go on video chat with Sammie for a while, which was awesome.

There was a lot of noise from the flat upstairs this morning. Banging, drilling and loud voices mostly, though at one point my lightshade was moving so whatever they were doing was vibrating the ceiling. I’m not sure if it was the council, their contractors or a new tenant moving in. Johan checked outside but the only van out there was a stairlift one, and they weren’t fitting a stairlift. I’m glad I had my noise cancelling headphones or there’s no way I’d have coped, and going on puter wouldn’t have happened.

I also changed my top today. I got a new one last week, so I’m wearing that. It says “Protect Earth – Penguins Live Here” and has a very cute penguin picture on it. I had to tell Johan not to pinch it until I’d worn it as he likes it as well 🙂

Tomorrow I think I’m having my flu jab. No idea when that’ll be, but I’m hoping it’s a nice nurse. I know it’s not going to be the awesome practice nurse that did Johan’s as she couldn’t come on a Tuesday 🙁 I’m a bit nervous but since flu was what triggered my ME I really don’t want to get it again. Having a cold is bad enough.

Danni

Day 5 – Nicky and Isabella

2019, Danni, NaBloPoMo, Penguins!, Real Life

Optician’s appointment took it out of me, so I’m not going out today and will probably be sleeping soon. I’m having a Greggs vegan sausage roll for tea as I’ve been wanting to try it for a while. It’s really nice and I’ll probably get them again.

One of carers burnt a hole in Nicky’s body, so I needed to get a replacement. Grey is no longer an option, so I went for marshmallow pink, which is pretty much lilac so I’m happy. So is Nicky. Isabella is slightly jealous but she’s called that because grey adult penguins usually have isabellinism. They’re my main bed heaty penguins so I’m glad to have them.

Nicky, a very fluffy lilac and white penguin soft toy with pink sparkly beak and feet. Behind them is Isabella, a less fluffy grey and white penguin with an orange beak and feet.
Nicky and Isabella